Amazingly, it’s been slightly less than a month since Mark Zuckerberg decided that hate speech is good and facts are bad. As you may recall, that decision led me to create a Bluesky account. It also led me to dramatically reduce my Facebook and Instagram use, although the latter was pretty sporadic to begin with. In that time I’ve noticed a definite shift in how I use social media.
For one, I’m just on it a lot less. It doesn’t take long for me to get caught up on Bluesky and Mastodon. I follow almost no one on Pixelfed so far, so that’s quick, too. This leaves me with a lot of time to do other things. For example, I successfully completed the “read every day in January” challenge on The Story Graph for the first time this year. There were a few days where I’d just do a couple of pages or a few minutes of an audio book in order to check the box, but most days I read for an hour or so. I’m also writing more, as evidenced by the number of posts on this blog lately.
Twitter always felt like the most natural platform for me, since it favors short shitposts. My brain makes so many of those. For some reason (perhaps because my network was mostly people I knew through my professional work), I never felt as comfortable doing that on Mastodon. But on Bluesky, it’s like the good old days.
Surprisingly to me, I’ve cross-posted a lot more than I thought I would, thanks to Openvibe. I’m normally opposed to cross-posting, but since Mastodon and Bluesky are largely the same format, I guess my aversion is lessened. Some stuff still goes to one or the other, but I really expected myself to always direct posts to a single choice. I’m still learning about myself at the age of 41.
I haven’t completely abandoned Facebook (and you are not invited to argue why I should), but I only check it briefly every few days. Years ago, I had gotten my usage to near zero, but then Twitter went to hell and Facebook had the largest share of my People™. Surprisingly, simply removing the app shortcut from my home screen has kept me from opening it out of boredom. Now when I go to Facebook, it’s because I’m actively choosing to check in.
Partially as a side effect of the smaller networks on the platforms I use and partly because of intentional choices, I find myself doomscrolling less. I’m following a lot fewer journalists and Online Political Opinion Havers than I did in the old days. I have enough ways of finding out what new terrors appear every day that I not need to immerse myself in it. That seems to have helped my mental state quite a bit (duh, right?).
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I quit Twitter a few years before Musk bought it and I’ve not missed it for a minute. I skipped Mastodon – felt too much like nerds nerding out over federation, and I have reached maximum nerdery density in my life already. I tried Threads for five minutes and just didn’t take to it. I joined Bluesky and it’s not bad, not bad at all. I keep having to mute words as the film photographers I follow of course are wringing their hands over the state of the country and frankly it’s just too much for me. But at least I can block those words!
“Nerds nerding out over federation” isn’t too far off the mark. My biggest complaint about it has been that my non-nerdy friends have largely not been there, so it has become a very small set of my total social graph. I love my nerdy friends, but I also want to talk weather, sports, local news, and silliness.
Still, the idea that we can keep some semblance of connection to everyone we’ve ever met is a pretty recent phenomenon. I wonder if it will last. It certainly seems to be struggling.
I’ve been questioning if keeping in touch with everyone you’ve ever met is actually a good thing. Also, I downloaded my friend list on Facebook (actually screen scrapped it as requesting it from FB only got me 10 names). Then I put it in a spreadsheet and went through all 258 names and rated then as yes or no on “would it really bother me if I never spoke to them again?”
Only 78 people passed the test. I’m considering if I could just check in with them via text or email occasionally.
You were on the good list, Ben.
Hooray! And you’ve inspired tomorrow’s post.
Great reflection. In 2017, I was struggling a lot with my relationship to social media and getting out of the depressive doomscrolling cycle. Some of the changes I made then, like deleting Facebook and Instagram, contributed a lot to my mental health and the time I spend doing other things.
https://medium.com/@jwflory/cut-the-plug-deleting-facebook-and-instagram-6cbe7c86d9c9
Granted, over the years, I have drifted back to finding things to scroll and spending screen-time, but it is less often social media or current events. Like you said, it is pretty easy to find out what is happening around the world even without social media.
Wishing you the best on your new chapter with social media 💪🏻